Will this final be cumulative?

It's cliche really, that old saying, "Some people gotta learn the hard way" but I am a firm believer that sayings become popular for a reason, as do stereotypes but thats a whole different story. Anyway. I've come to realize I am a frequent flyer of "the hard way" not intentionally mind you (if there is a hard way I can avoid by learning from other people's mistakes I am so there!) but I seem to get things better if I experience them myself.... It's just the way I learn. Take smoothies for example.

My hubby makes a killer "Green Smoothie" (we're really creative with names around our house) It has spinach, chard, mango, strawberries, banana, etc. in it and is the ULTIMATE cheater version of eating my dark leafy greens. Heck yes! So I ask the hubby to demonstrate the process of said smoothie so I can make it for myself and because the idea of drinking pureed greens grosses me out a little I really want to do it *exactly* like he does so that I can avoid even a yucky taste test... which would ruin the Green Smoothie and it's nutritious magic for me (because 85% of my eating habits are mental... freak, I know.) So half way into the process he has me helping. Hands on is good right? Usually, but no. He starts to say things like "Add a little handful of spinach"

Me: "like this?"

Him:" Mmmmm sure.... well.. yeah"

Me: "More? ... less?... what?!"

Him: "It's fine"

Not fine... no no no... So being the saint he is, he took over so I could observe. (No I didn't expect him to know that's what I wanted... what I want is always changing, and he was super patient and informative ;)

So long (and slightly unrelated) story short, that's how I learn... by observing or doing... Not everything is that way, somethings are easily comprehensible by mere explanation but my last three years have seemed to be a medley of lessons learned and I'm not talking about the ones I signed myself up for at our good 'ol community college. I mean habits, feelings, or choices that I didn't understand in other people (Dare I say I unknowingly.. or stink... maybe knowingly judged them because of that misunderstanding)... I have now found myself in situations, mind sets, and emotions I didn't know existed and though there have been some phenomenal times it hasn't always been pretty... but in all reality. I wouldn't trade a minute of it. Now I'm not saying God put me into every trial so that I would learn from it and become this amazing person (because I'm also a strong believer in the balance between choices and circumstance) but I do believe He makes all things work together for our good, and the whole trials = perseverance = character things... and I like the person I am becoming in Him. I am still growing and learning (and hope to never stop) but at this point, I feel like I have a whole new clarity of love... and that is enough silver lining for me.

PS. I still haven't braved the making of the green smoothie yet.... but I will... yes. I will.